Silencing "The Should": Tell Your Inner Critic To STFU

Silencing "The Should":  Tell Your Inner Critic To STFU

I felt guilty because I knew there was so much to do and so many things to see at this gorgeous resort. Yet all I wanted to do was lay in front of the fire.

Maybe you have this issue too. I call it “The Should”. The annoying asshole who lives in the back of your mind constantly telling you that you’re not doing enough. The nagging notion whispering you “should” do more, you “should” be out living life, moving, accomplishing, and DOING.

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When Your Inner Critic Is Out Of Control

When Your Inner Critic Is Out Of Control

When I was in college, my classmates all went around in a circle over lunch labeling what kind of bread we would each be...if we had to be a certain kind of bread. (Yes, these are the kinds of things that amused us at 19.) When it came time for me to be labeled, I remember one of my classmates responding without hesitation, and with the utmost confidence, “White Bread. For sure,” followed by an immediate, almost victorious, resounding array of concurs.

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Gossip Folks

Gossip Folks

I work in theater.  It’s an amazing community of people.  In fact, I was drawn to this business because of the people.  My best friends did the plays in high school, so I did the plays.

But, like high school, theater also comes with a certain amount of drama (and I don’t just mean the drama we get paid to do… HAH!).  We spend all day together when putting up a new show.  I’m currently in the fourth week of ten hour days, cooped up in a theater with the same forty people.  Inevitably, we deal with the joys/fallout of new friendships, new relationships, breakups, election seasons (God help us), bomb threats in Times Square, babies being born, rivalries, nerves, lack of sleep, drinking (theater folks do a lot of that), jokes taken the wrong way, lack of space, egos, and all-around insecurity… no biggie.  

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Meditation To Overcome Difficult Emotions

Meditation To Overcome Difficult Emotions

According to the Advaita and the practice of Yoga thousands of years ago, Witness Consciousness is learning how to develop simple awareness of what is going on with oneself.  Digging a step further is having an attitude of Metta, which refers to the idea of wishing oneself well.  The development of this kind of consciousness and attitude toward oneself is an important type of self-love. It is understanding, learning to love (clear seeing) and accepting whatever arises within and without oneself.

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The World Outside Can Wait

The World Outside Can Wait

Turns out, a killer six pack isn’t going to fix the emotional wounding that happened when you were five.

If you’re like me, you choose to run hoping the issues you’re dealing with will be left behind. Sometimes, during this temporary escape, the mind has a chance to slowly chip away at the inner issues. Things start to get sorted out amongst all our comings and goings. Unfortunately, because we are running, the energy needed in order to effectively deal with our issues can’t be fully given. It’s at times like this I recall the phrase;

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Understanding the Hidden Value of Not Knowing

Understanding the Hidden Value of Not Knowing

The “unknown” is not my favorite thing.

Exotic sounding words such as “mystery”, “magic”, “possibility” – that saturate our Instagram feeds make the “unknowns” in life seem so exciting. I should be having fun entertaining all these new, enticing scenarios - at least that’s what I tell myself, when really I’m resisting the urge to throw up in my mouth.

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Is Social Media Destroying Your Self-Worth?

Is Social Media Destroying Your Self-Worth?

A few weeks ago, a friend of mine closed down her social media accounts. This surprised me, as she had a large following and posted gorgeous images of herself on the beach drinking from coconut shells and frolicking in her bikini while flashing her perfectly white teeth. When I asked her why she chose to remove herself from social media, she said, “it is no longer fun.” Instead, it started to dictate her mood depending on how many “likes” she would get on a particular post. 

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